Knowledge, studying the Bible, memorizing scripture, going to church, having a job at the church, praying or almost anything else religious you can do will not make you whole separate from relationship with God. I am not downing any of these activities they are all good. Certainly if you are a Christian you need to practice all of these things. Mostly they are religious activity and they will help you to grow as a Christian. But you need more if you are going to began to break free of the bonds of dysfunction.
You may have heard this before but only a love relationship with Jesus will bring you into wholeness. As different as it sounds to what the world might tell you God desires that we come to him, full of ourselves, our sins, and failures. Simply confessing our sin, trusting and relying on Him, in that context God will love us to life. I know it is very hard for most people to believe that God simply wants to love you and have a relationship with you. The Apostle John wrote under the inspiration of God the following verses. “For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but to save the world through him.” John 3:16-17
Why then is it so hard to develop a relationship with God? That is definitely a hard question and in the light of our new found knowledge that God’s greatest desire is that we as human beings have a relationship with him. That being said if the problem is not God as we have thought. That he is hiding from us or maybe he doesn’t like us. The truth is the problem with our relationship with God is us. Our relationship with our natural father affects our relationship with God. Most of the time, we view God through the filter of our relationship with our earthly father. We think God is like our earthly father and according to how our earthly father met our needs we reflect that on God.
Before we fall into the trap of blaming our father or anyone else for our problems, let us remember the problem is us. We have a nature just like our fathers that keeps us from God. When Adam fell the affect of his fall has passed to every generation. In fact his fallen nature passed to us has kept us from God. If you take time to read the 3rd chapter of Genesis about the fall of man. You will discover that the fall had a three fold effect on our relationship with God and man.
First like Adam and Eve our sin nature causes us to hide from God. Genesis 3:8 “Then the man and his wife heard the sound of the Lord God as he was walking in the garden in the cool of the day, and they hid from the Lord God among the trees of the garden.” Gods’ desire is to develop a relationship with us, in that relationship he wants us to run to him with our sins and failures so he may offer us forgiveness and life. However that nature wants to drive us into to hiding. It could be fear, shame or apathy whatever the motivating factor is bottom line our nature uses that to drive us into hiding.
Second like Adam and Eve our sin nature drives us to shift blame. If you read the account of the fall you will find Adam blamed Eve, and Eve blamed the serpent. Adam’s nature in us causes us the shift blame also. It is always someone else’s fault our world is crooked. Relationships by their very nature require openness, honesty, vulnerability, trust, and love. If we shift blame on to others for whatever reason our world is crooked none of the requirements of relationship can grow. We struggle with our relationship with God and even blame him. We have to accept that we are responsible for our own problems.
Thirdly shame causes us to cover our sin instead of taking it to God. In the account of the fall, shame caused Adam and Eve to cover their bodies with fig leaves. Shame causes us to cover our sin from others and from God. Shame affects our relationship with others how can we be real with someone if we cover who we are from them. I am not suggesting that you must expose your sin to everyone. But you should have someone or a close group of people you can be real with.
The end result of our sin nature causes us to be self-absorbed, self-dissecting, and self-centered. As we progress through this teaching you will probably get mad at times about some of the comments I make. That is a natural reaction, as some of the truths am I bringing to you were revealed to me I got mad also. However as I began to accept responsibility for my issues and do something to resolve them I began to change. I believe you can too.
In this introduction we have outlined the problem as we begin to progress through the teaching hopefully we find the root of the problem and deal with it. But I must remind you again that relationship with God is the only way we will ever find life and come into wholeness. Most people believe that the eternal life God offers us in John 3:16 is for when we get to heaven. I rather think that God wants to give us eternal life now, at least as much as we will allow. I am not talking about never dying but rather life that is full and abundant while we are on this earth.