Husband: Henry Jackson Stiefel
Born: 5 Apr 1862 - Georgia
Died: 8 Jan 1910 - Alabama
Buried: - Mt. Zion Baptist Church, Fyffe, Alabama
Father: James Stiefel
Mother: Mary Powell
Marriage: 18 Nov 1886
Place: Dekalb County Alabama
Wife: Nancy Jane Harris
Born: 3 Mar 1867
Died: 20 Oct 1954 - Alabama
Buried: - Mt. Zion Baptist Church, Fyffe, Alabama
Father: Ezekiel A. Harris (1878-1958)
Adam's Nature - The sin nature we received from Adam. I.e.: our mistrust of God, blaming others with our problems, susceptibility to believe lies and be deceived, and lastly the fear of women.
Anger - Anger is an emotion, it is not a sin. It only becomes sinful if we don't deal with it properly. If we try to push our anger down or constantly take our anger out on others we let an emotion become a sin. Be careful that you don't deceive yourself into believing that "righteous indignation" is acceptable. The Bible says "Be angry, and do not sin": do not let the sun go down on your wrath, nor give place to the devil Ephesians 4: 26. When we hold anger or "righteous indignation" overnight we give the devil a place in our life (see Stronghold)
Bitter Root Expectancies - Roots of bitterness, that cause us to believe we will be rejected, unaccepted or treated like we were in our past painful experiences. Our bitter roots actually cause the thing that we feared, or believed to happen to us.
looking diligently lest anyone fall short of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up cause trouble, and by this many become defiled; Hebrews 12:15
Confession - Simply means to agree with, in another words we have confessed only when we have acknowledged our sin. It isn't enough to ask forgiveness or say we were wrong. If God says we committed the sin of pride our only acceptable response is, " I have committed the sin of pride forgive me for my sin. " We should not argue with the light but rather agree with the light. We would be a lot better off if we confessed something we were not sure we committed than to let un-confessed sin be in our lives. Pray that God would give you a repentant heart. (see Repentance)
If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. If we say that we have not sinned, we make Him a liar, and His word is not in us.
I John 1:9-10
Confess your trespasses to one another, and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The effective, fervent prayer of a righteous man avails much. James 5:16
Cross - We see the redemptive power of the cross as the only means to true and lasting healing. Paul in Philippians 2:12-13 stated, work out your own salvation with fear and trembling; for it is God who works in you both to will and to do for His good pleasure. Lasting healing cannot come from behavior modification. Lasting healing only comes as we work out our own salvation. The cross is not just a place to come to death to old ways of responding and our selfish motivations. Neither is it a cheap place to run, to stop our reaping of circumstance. The cross is however the median place in our journey to freedom. The prayer at Golgotha in Jesus' experience was a place of preparation and grief. A deep time of soul searching and pain to prepare Him for His death. His response after Golgotha should be our response "Father not my will but yours be done. Jesus was so prepared for the cross after golgotha He told Pilate "No one can take my life I give it". If we stop there, in our experience we are dead to our sins but with no power to overcome. I believe God wants to take our death and resurrect us to life. I have found in my experience nothing takes the place of time with God. God in two minutes of loving you can heal what a multitude of counselors could not in a lifetime.
Dishonor - This can happen in our hearts if we are flagrantly open about it or if it happens totally in secret, the result in our lives is the same.
"Honor your father and mother," which is the first commandment with promise:
"that it may be well with you and you may live long on the earth." Ephesians 6:2-3
Forgiveness - The act of releasing a person from the hurt or pain they have caused you or even the sin they have committed against you. You may feel you have a right to withhold forgiveness or that you were the one that was wronged why should you forgive. Our best example is Jesus he did nothing to deserve the wrong he received from his own creation. However while he was hanging on the cross he forgave those who hung him there.
Then Jesus said, "Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they do." And they divided His garments and cast lots. Luke 23:34
"For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. "But if you do not forgive men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses. Matt 6:14-15
Fruit - What you can see, problems, habits, habitual sin, and dependencies.
Inner child - A term used to define the set of mind, will and emotions rooted in a childhood wounding that drives a person to react more than the situation they are in might call for. The reaction can be anger, depression or anxiety the key is not the emotion but the over or under reaction. Typically this will be triggered by a situation perceived by the individual to be similar to the wounding experience.
Inner Vows - Vows we have made, usually in childhood, which hold us in bondage to our words. These type of vows even though they have a powerful effect on our lives, we rarely remember making them. (see vow for a more complete definition)
Judgement - Anytime we look down on anyone with the attitude that we would do better or be better than that person if we were given their circumstance. At the time we do this we are in danger of judgment and if we keep this attitude for a period of time, we have judged.
"Judge not, that you be not judged. "For with what judgment you judge, you will be judged; and with the measure you use, it will be measured back to you. Matt 7:1-2
Therefore you are inexcusable, O man, whomever you are who judge, for in whatever you judge another you condemn yourself; for you who judge practice the same things. Romans 2:1
Personality types - We are complicated beings, until you understand the personality God has given you it will be hard to distinguish what the real problem is. We have seen marriage problems solved when the couple understood each other's personality. It is easier to meet someone's need when you understand what that need is.
Repentance - To repent literally means that you are walking one way, you stop, turn around 180 degrees and begin to walk the other way. At the root of true repentance is God, repentance can only be given by the Father. Repentance initiated by God comes with the realization of what your sin has done to God or the people you have sinned against. In another words repentance is more than sorrow that you were caught in your sin.
"Therefore be merciful, just as your Father also is merciful. "Judge not, and you shall not be judged. Condemn not, and you shall not be condemned. Forgive, and you will be forgiven. "Give, and it will be given to you: good measure, pressed down, shaken together, and running over will be put into your bosom. For with the same measure that you use, it will be measured back to you."
Root - What you cannot see, sins we have not confessed, vows, judgements, and bitter roots.
Stronghold - Any thought pattern, hidden sin or lie we have believed that keeps us from the knowledge of God These strongholds actually become places for demons to build nest and take up residence in us.
Vows - Words we speak that set our lives on a track, when these words are powered by judgement they become the enemies' open door. When we swear to not be like someone, not to treat others like we have been treated, or almost anything we swear to do can easily become a vow the enemy can use to trap, ensnare or destroy us. Jesus answered this dilemma in Matt 5:33-37;
"Again you have heard that it was said to those of old, 'You shall not swear falsely, but shall perform your oaths to the Lord.' "But I say to you, do not swear at all: neither by heaven, for it is God's throne; "nor by the earth, for it is His footstool; nor by Jerusalem, for it is the city of the great King. "Nor shall you swear by your head, because you cannot make one hair white or black. "But let your 'Yes' be 'Yes,' and your 'No,' 'No.' For whatever is more than these is from the evil one.