One of the most relevant laws in the Bible to begin to see the root of our dysfunction, is the fifth commandment. Deuteronomy 5:16 "Honor your father and your mother, as the LORD your God has commanded you, so that you may live long and that it may go well with you in the land the LORD your God is giving you. God's law is a description of how life works. Until we have been brought to repentance we continue to reap the things we have judged. When we dishonor our parents it brings death. The dishonor will cause our ability to truly experience life, to be destroyed. We learn as children that it is not safe to feel negative emotions of anger, fear, loss, and grief, so we learn how to stop feeling. To the degree we do not feel we become neurotic. Our little rebellious nature causes us to build a heart of stone and defense structures to protect. Our emotions are hidden and so we build us a hiding place of escape all this to prevent being hurt again.
Clues of a hardened heart:
Inner vows are usually made as children as an effort to stop, deny or avoid the pain. Once a vow is made it is like a railroad track, the engineer may want to go another way. But the train will only go where the track goes. Inner vows are often the key to behaviors that have not changed. Inner vows become a part of the hardened heart.
List any vows that you might have made or can remember.
To dismantle a vow:
Father, I ask you to heal the little boy/girl who has been wounded. Pour in the oil and wine that is needed to promote healing. Strengthen this one spirit and have mercy on them as they make their confession.
Father, I confess my sin of vowing to __________________. I renounce my vow and I ask you to forgive me and I forgive myself.
James 5:16 partner takes the sword of the spirit and severs the power of the vow to control. Speak to the person's inner being to return to the way God ordained.